Naiia is getting ready to go out. She is dressing to please her dominant, and he expresses approval as she puts on her stockings and garters, her neatly trimmed pussy framed. She wears no bra, but has a silver chain around her waist with his pet name for her encoded in the links, and it makes her shiver a little as she links it, and she gets a chuckle from her owner as she tells him this.

Heels on, slinky dress slinked into, she picks up the special cigar he prepared for her. She shivers again as she thinks about the sight of that cigar dipped in his cum, then left to dry. Naiia licks her lips a bit as she thinks about tasting his salt mingling with the smoke of the cigar held between her lips. On the way to the cigar bar he selects music that she feels all the way through her spine down to her pussy, already wet.

At the bar she has the drink he selected for her – a nice deep scotch – and listens as he tells her an erotic fantasy of taking her. She smokes the cigar, knowing that the smoke flowing from her lips, her legs elegantly crossed over the stool, fishnets over heels, it all turns him on, just as much as the words of being his sexual toy are turning her on.

Finally, at the end of the cigar, she can hardly control her legs, she is so aroused by the environment he’s created for her. She goes to the restroom, locks the stall door, and as she hikes up her skirt Naiia tries to keep her whimpers and gasps quiet as she follows his final instruction and cums for him, her fingers covered with slick juices. For just a moment she holds her pussy open to show him how wet she is.

Then she turns off her phone and waves at the bartender as she leaves the bar. She knows that in a few hours, her dominant will get the video she took, and know that she followed her instructions well.

He lives over 2000 miles away. But they’ve been in a 24/7 D/s relationship for over a year. Through texts, video messages, GPS and more, he’s created an entire scene to enjoy for her in spite of the distance.

For some hard-core kinksters the idea of a relationship mediated by technology is often considered to be “D/s lite” or otherwise put down as “not real.” However, given the ubiquitous “always-on” nature of social media, cameras on every cel phone, and services such as Amazon, it has become very easy for people like Naiia to have a fully physical and all-encompassing scene with a dominant even if he’s across the country.

It goes both ways. Naiia is one of many submissives who enjoy providing service in a variety of ways. She first started serving her dominant by booking flights for his travel and functioning as his “native guide” when he traveled to her town. As Mollena Williams has emphasized, there are many ways that service can manifest itself. She continues to do this even as the power exchange between them deepened, adding in services of a personal assistant and secretary as well as a sexy muse.

In the above example, cigar play was happening at a distance using some of the techniques that Graydancer describes in his first two cigar service videos. In this case, her dominant had selected a cigar he wanted her to smoke, controlling taste, sight, and even breath to an extent. It’s not imaginary; she’s having a physical experience controlled by him.

She, in turn, can note what kind of cigar he likes and use the web to research similar smokes or other accessories. The role of “personal shopper” is just one that she plays, but it is the internet that allows her to do it. Depending on what “model of service” you choose, you may be able to use services such as PeaPod or BlackSocks.com to buy groceries or even clothing for your dominant.

It also doesn’t have to be as all-encompassing as a 24/7 relationship. Using various forms of social media applications such as FourSquare or Apple’s “FindMyFriends” it’s easy to see where people are at a distance (assuming they consent to connecting the service). Selecting a playlist via Pandora.com gives a soundtrack to your fantasy roleplaying. Meanwhile, enforcement of tasks or performances can be done via photos and videos sent by cel phone – even with a modicum of privacy if you use ephemeral apps like Snapchat.

Naiia is quick to identify her preferred tech to use with her dominant: “Voice memo and Skype. I like the idea of him being able to listen to my voice, and to be intimate with him while he is away & busy.” The power of voice to seduce and command is one of the best skills a dominant can cultivate. If all the technology and webstuff gets a bit much, just using your phone as an actual phone can give an amazing connection between you and your dominant.

Best of all, while Naiia’s dominant did the scene with her from thousands of miles away, he could just as easily have been in the bar with her, watching her obey his commands. Technology has become a pervasive part of the world, and there’s no reason it can’t be harnessed to nourish the power exchange and increase the intimacy through connection whether the distance is ten feet or ten thousand miles.