In this clip, Mollena explains why it’s important to understand your reasons for pushing your own boundaries. The short answer is: do it for yourself, not for other people. But there are a lot of variations in how both of those things look. Also, Mollena explains how fear can be both an aphrodisiac and a good warning sign when you’re negotiating your limits with play partners. This is a great clip to watch before playing so that you can clearly examine your own desires before you dive in!

Boundary Smackdown

1. Boundary Smackdown Part 1: Hard & Soft Limits
2. Boundary Smackdown, Part 2: Negotiation
3. Boundary Smackdown Part 3: Pushing the Edge
4. Boundary Smackdown Part 4: Negotiating Aftercare