Many couples that enjoy kinky sex and/or relationship structures feel that it’s important for BDSM to not be just something that is done in the bedroom, but rather as a way to live life. For others, kinky sex is a fun thing to explore—but only in the bedroom.

Regardless, keeping kink in your life with a busy schedule can seem daunting, but it doesn’t have to be. There are a lot of ‘little’ ways to keep your pervy motor running, even when there doesn’t seem to be an extra minute in the day.

Actually, that’s a great place to start—one minute.

If you have a dominant/submissive relationship, take a moment in the morning and the evening to enjoy an affirmation of your dynamic. If you’re the dominant, look your submissive in the eye and give them a command, even if it’s about something practical. Doing the laundry can get a lot sexier when it comes from a dominant order to Get. It. Done.

If you’re more of a fetishist, take that minute to focus on your fetish together. Into spanking? Give a quick smack on the ass when no one is looking. Into leather? Keep a pair of nice gloves ‘handy’ (see what I did there ;). Into sploshing? Swipe a finger full of whipped cream across your partner’s cheek.

Even with just a minute or two, you can indulge your kinky desires. Then, when you do have some time to luxuriate in sexiness, you’ll have been keeping in touch, which makes it faster and easier to get to your kinky goodness.