Energetically Transmitted Disease or, ETD a new age virus that runs rampant in our lives, lurking, like a shadow, then descending on you in a wave of torment and anxiety. The video, Safer Magical Sex by Lee Harrington is something anyone who participates in recreational kink should watch.

Georgia and I both have boundaries we have set that minimize the anxiety that comes with being at the mercy of others peoples actions. When it comes to sexual interaction we have a clearly defined framework that helps keep us clear of the ETD monster. The ETD monster can creep up anywhere in many forms, jealousy, fear, uncertainty, etc.

The rules Georgia and I have help keep us closer, there are somethings that only Georgia and I do together. For instance, we have certain rope and toys that are just for us, certain phrases or words that only we use with each other. Committed relationships need to have these types of boundaries to nurture good sexual health.

Communication helps us establish our boundaries, and overcome many of impulsive reactions. Creating trust when talking about the basics of sex, then leads to communication in so many other areas that make the sex more powerful.

We all obsess over impulsive wants and desires, patience gives us time to think about our actions with others. Establishing these boundaries encourages reflection helping minimize the ETD trauma. ETD’s can cause us to do silly things like reciting saccharine poems, or embarrassingly trying to fit into an outfit clearly not meant to be worn, by you, in public.

Keeping the ETD’s away is no easy task, but setting boundaries helps, honestly recognizing and establishing your own boundaries is the first step.

~Jay